Inner Revolutionary Men is TheInnerRevolution.Org’s Men’s Group. We have come together to liberate ourselves from the deeply held constraints that have isolated us from ourselves, one another, our families and our world.
We offer periodic retreats on topics relevant to our desire and commitment to foster an “Inner Revolution” within ourselves and our world. We also conduct online meetings that take place every other week through web conferencing. We welcome anyone else who feels compelled to join us.
Currently, the men of the Inner Revolutionary Men’s Group are reaching out to other men’s groups to share our video “Men and Sexual Harassment: Let’s Stop Judging and Let’s Start Helping” to help create a movement where we change what it means to be a man — and build a culture to enables us get our true needs met: our needs for love, caring, connection and real support. Please watch the video below and follow the link at the end to join the conversation.
Please take the time to learn more about us and what we’re up to by reading our Mission Statement below and contact Todd Benton at 760-613-6761 or [email protected] for additional information on our Inner Revolutionary Men series of retreats and our online meetings.
Inner Revolutionary Men’s Mission Statement
Men have built bridges, made discoveries in science and plowed lands. But now we are challenged to use our strength to achieve a much higher goal: to tame our egos and learn to partner with our deeper natures, women, children, other species and one another. Instead of trying to conquer life, let’s focus on enhancing it. Instead of using our gifts to win wars, let’s use our gifts to end them. Instead of devoting our lives to winning, proving and striving, let us devote our lives to helping alleviate suffering and bringing our love into every corner of the earth.
Men are in a unique position to help our world become a more peaceful and nurturing home for humanity and other species. To a large extent, our history has been dominated by ego – the need to win, prove ourselves or get something for ourselves and “our own,” and that has led us to overly rely on competition and violence. This shows up everywhere – from our sports fields, to our homes, to our workplaces, to our political battlefields, foreign and domestic. The need to win has often led us to sacrifice our own good, as well as to hurt women, children, other species and the planet itself. The good news is that, with many of us still in positions of relative power in our homes and in our world, we have in our hands important levers of transformation. In other words, when men change, our world can more easily change.
Both men and women are dominated by ego, but we are here to look at our part as men. When we look honestly at human society, we see alarming numbers of people lashing out at one another, filled with hatred and distrust. We see families full of power struggles, anger and sometimes even physical violence. We see our prisons stuffed with men, especially economically disadvantaged and the mentally ill. We see racism, sexism and discrimination based on gender identification. We see a world where the dollar sign trumps caring for one another and the planet. We see addictions running rife. And we see human-made climate change ruining our children’s future.
What does that have to do with men? Everything. While men have dominated the planet in service to our egos, we have disempowered ourselves, women, children and one another through our attachment to ways of being that don’t serve us. We have elevated power over compassion and self-centered interests over the common good. It’s enough.
Inner Revolutionary Men is a group of men standing up to business as usual. We support one another to free ourselves from the domination of the old models of what it is to be a man. We reject our socialization where we have been trained to over-rely on competition, to be in relationships of domination and/or dependence, to suppress feelings so as not to appear weak or vulnerable and to conform in order to get ahead, often at the expense of expressing our true natures.
We are ready for a change, an Inner Revolution, a new, more authentic way of being men. Men and The Inner Revolution is a group dedicated to that vision. And we make specific commitments that can help us to make that vision possible.
The Three Commitments of an Inner Revolutionary
Men or women, we are One. We are all deeply feeling individuals, who experience much the same pain and joy, frustration and fulfillment, fear and love. Men or women, we all also need self-expression and self-realization, freed from the limitations of traditional roles based on gender or any other distinction not intrinsic to who we truly are. Being One, we feel one another’s pain, and so equality and self-realization for all is necessary for our own self-realization. If all men took on the commitment to Oneness, the world would immediately become a more loving and sustainable place. We would cooperate to find meaningful and permanent solutions to problems that seem unsolvable – from our homes, to the marketplace, to the international arena. And we would welcome the partnership of women and children around the world. We would all be more empowered.
Everything we do matters, and our thoughts, actions and attitudes impact us and one another. When men commit to accountability, we commit to examining our every thought, belief, feeling and action, so we can evaluate its impact on ourselves and others. We also commit to changing everything and anything about ourselves and our world that causes needless pain and blocks us from our individual and collective potential. As we embrace our accountability as individuals and as men, we pause and re-examine our relationships to one another, others and even other species. At first, we might feel ashamed or even threatened, as we acknowledge our current or historic negative impact and the need for change. But, together, we can face our fears and our shame and embrace the humility that allows us to transform.
Although we might all have moments of personal happiness, we can thrive only in a thriving world. When those around us are in pain, under-utilized or dysfunctional, our world doesn’t work. When men commit to Mutual Support, we commit to include in our perspective the needs of the whole and to dedicate every decision to the highest good of all, including us. In this way, we actively co-create a more supportive world for us all. As men we acknowledge that in a world where women are dominated, we are losing the gifts of more than half our population. And we acknowledge that where other peoples are dominated, we lose their gifts as well. If everyone were thriving, we could actually relax and feel nurtured, now able to trust that the people around us are focused on the same goals. If we gave up domination, we would be released from the negativity of others’ resentment and our conscious or unconscious fear of being toppled. And if we stopped feeling that we HAVE to be dominant to be seen as men, we would be able to release ourselves from the shame and embarrassment we feel when faced with the reality that we aren’t ever in total power or control. We would know a new peace.
By embracing these principles and practices in every arena of our lives, we believe that men would change and our world will change too. But in order to practice these principles, we also need to develop three habits: Courage, Self-Awareness and Transformation, all of which allow us to fulfill on our commitments. We commit to developing those habits.
The Inner Revolution and Authenticity
The final point of this very brief statement is that “real men” are real not because we fit some power image created by our egos and collective prejudices, but because we are authentic. As real men, we can choose cooperation and Oneness rather than competition and domination; we can choose connection rather than posturing; and we can become true leaders and a blessing to all. We want that.
Inner Revolutionary Men is a service group ofTheInnerRevolution.Org, a nonprofit educational corporation and a community that meets in person, via phone and online. Our work is based on the principles, tools and practices contained in the book Living with Reality, written by TheInnerRevolution.Org founder Beth Green. For more about our many services go to http://TheInnerRevolution.Org. And follow us on Facebook, at Beth Green and The Inner Revolution.